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Check Your Intimacy Health
Hey everyone! I want to shift focus a little this week and give you all a free resource. Curiosity plays an important role in feeling attached to your partner. When you are continuously curious about each other and willing to dig into the deep conversations, connection tends to grow. This is an activity to do… Read More
Comforting Thinkers and Feelers
Have you ever taken the Myers-Briggs Personality Test? There are many personality indicators involved, but I want to focus on Thinkers (T) and Feelers (F). These indicators give insight on how you experience life. All people certainly think and feel, but we tend to lean towards one of these more than the other. My daughter… Read More
Why Are My Kids So Disrespectful?
Kids will be kids and learning to be respectful comes with maturity as they grow and develop. Our kids have to have a strong example if we want them to learn effectively. Our Attitude Sets the Tone: Building a culture of respect requires us as parents to treat the people we come in contact with… Read More
Understanding the Whole Child
Why Does My Kid Act Like This? Do you ever wonder why your kids misbehave? Every one of their actions is communicating something important. Physical Needs: Our children have been communicating with us since the day they were born. When a baby cries, they are communicating one of the following: I am hungry! Feed me!… Read More
Parenting on Purpose
My wife and I are preparing to teach a 16-week parenting class at church. Over the past 15 years, I have had the opportunity to consult with parents at every stage of childhood development. Also, my wife and I have been parents for the past 11 years. I would like to point out a few… Read More
Dismantling Anger
Breaking Down the Walls Have you ever lost control of your temper? What would you say if I told you that anger is not a stand-alone emotion? For real! Think about the last time that you got really angry. I bet you felt sad, hurt, scared, embarrassed, disappointed, or any other number of negative emotions… Read More
Responding to Vulnerability
Have you ever experienced a moment when you asked someone how they were doing, and they were honest? I mean the moment when they get real in sharing personal pain points. I want to tell you about a time that went I out for breakfast, and I asked the cashier how he was doing. I… Read More
Building Community
Developing Genuine Friendships In my last post, Get Real: A Call for Genuineness, I began addressing the reality that many people have a hard time making genuine connections with other people. I offered some practical thoughts on ways to begin going deeper with others. Today, I want to do some follow-up. Let me start by… Read More
Get Real
A Call for Genuineness Surface-Level Relationships Have you ever noticed how hard it can be to meaningfully connect with others? As a Christian, I’ve noticed a trend in the church toward surface level relationships. When I think about it, I see this trend throughout our culture, not just in the church. It saddens me to… Read More
Journey Before Destination
Contentment vs. Complacency Think back to your childhood. Do you remember what you wanted to be when you grew up? I thought for sure that I would be an inventor or a doctor. As I grew up, I wanted to be a foreign missionary. Did you end up doing what you thought you would? If… Read More
Don’t Push the Button!
Keep the Peace Do your buttons get pushed by people around you? Mine do too. Congrats! You are a real human. In our current climate, the people around us have polarizing opinions that they feel deeply passionate about. This is not necessarily a bad thing! However, when people have differing views, it is easy to… Read More
The Storm Before the Calm
Why things get worse before they get better. I’ve had many people tell me that therapy doesn’t work. They have been to multiple therapists, and they come away saying that they are in worse shape than when they started. I know why. A Case Study: All names and scenarios have been changed for the… Read More