Our experiences do not define our future, there is hope!
You certainly have more than your fair share of emotional scrapes and bruises. Its true that the experiences that you have had do not define your future. However, you are lying to yourself if you say that these experiences don’t tint the way you view yourself, life, and safety in relationships.
You are adaptive…
When bad stuff happens, smart people learn to adapt. When they feel threatened, they do whatever it takes to get away from the threat. This is what you have done too. Your experiences have taught you that other people are not safe. Of course your walls come up. How could it be any other way?
Inside the walls, your heart and your mind are safer, less vulnerable. This is the place where nobody can hurt you again. This is how you survive. But…you are utterly alone, painfully alone. This is not the way you were designed to function. The walls become like a dungeon.
If you step out from behind the walls, you risk everything. But if you stay behind the walls, you risk missing everything. It feels like there are no good options.
You don’t have to be alone…
It is very scary to confide in another person when you have had these kinds of experiences. However, our therapists greatly appreciate the incredible courage it takes to open the door, even a crack. For us, it truly is an honor we don’t take lightly to be granted access behind the wall.
We also know that the only way to heal is through the pain, not avoidance.. It is a lot less scary to walk through pain when you are walking with someone who gets you and will keep you safe.
How we help…
First, we have to create safety for you. If the trust is not present, your only safe place is within the walls. We need to identify the impact that your experiences have had.
As we understand the great reasons your walls stay up, we will identify the weapons in your arsenal that are effective in restoring safety when you feel activated.
As you begin to experience success in overcoming the battles, your confidence will build. The dragons will become less scary. The chains of your dungeon will begin to break as you begin to experience freedom.
We are ready to walk with you…
You can reach out to us through the free consult link on this page or call us directly at 870-293-2054. When you reach out by phone, you will have the opportunity to speak with a real person that will get you set up with a therapist that can see you within a week of your initial contact.
If you reach out through the free consult link, a therapist will contact you by phone within 24 business hours.